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and then maybe home and to my roots.

I have been getting uneasy here over the past week, wanting to go home to Brandenburg and start sorting things out.
Heike and I have had a long talk today and I have decided to go back next Sunday, she will do the same as when we came, take time off work and drive the Forester behind the Navajo. This time I will be fully covered with ADAC [tango_face_grin]
It will be easier for me to see things clearly from my own house than here were I have spent 3 good months with them.
The weather is still OK, no snow in sight here or in Brandenburg so roads will be travel worthy.
I realise more and more every day now this is not where I want to spend the rest of my days, I´m fine at the moment, but this is a mountainous area, (not many flat places to walk) I will be rather restricted when I am older.
Everything I need is at home as I have discovered to my inconvenience in the past 3 months.
I also feel more confident about being in the house alone although I know it will be hard at first, thats why Heike wants to come with me for the first week.
I can then plan a trip to England to visit family and friends and see how I feel about living there. The problem is of course finding somewhere to live, I want a place of my own not living with family.

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If you’re gonna go home I would leave the van electrics alone as it worked fine when you were there before jan, just a thought.
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I most certainly will leave things as they are Alan and if there is any difference since the repair when I get home
I will get a professional motorhome firm to check the connections.

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Sounds like a good plan overall Gerty, 
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Yes a good idea Jan, my preference I think would be to in UK, you can still visit Germany.
You have plenty of time to decide either way
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You will know what to do when you get back to your own home in Germany and spend some time there Jan. - As I said to you some months ago.....never make a huge decision after a bereavement.

I would also give yourself time once back at home, and do a couple of trips to the U.K. before you make a decision about moving back here. Even moving within a country can be a massive change, let alone moving to another one, even if you have lived there for many years.

Friends of ours moved back to the U.K. from Cyprus 18 months ago. They had been living out there for 21 years. To begin with, life in the U.K. again was good......as they were busy with house stuff and settling in meeting people. Now they are starting to miss their beautiful home, their way of life and their friends in Cyprus! - So much depends on your lifestyle where you are.


I think it is a good idea to get back to your own house before the weather changes to a ‘proper winter.’ Friends and family are always at the end of a telephone, or here on the computer! Make sure you let us all know how things are going. 


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That sounds a really good idea - go where “home” really is. Then you and Motley can take the time to really think things through without jumping to a decision. you can get the MH back in a charger you know works like you need it to. Then you can get your local man to give it a;l a once over to give you peace of mind.

then you can make some plans to do a bit of exploration when the weather gets nice to get out in  

As for coming back to England forget it, it’s really not all it’s cracked up to be. 


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It is still so recent since you lost Hans. There is no reason to make any hasty decisions- you can take your time. Go with the flow and do what feels right.
Staying with Heike has given you the emotional support and safe sanctuary for this initial grieving period.
Life is a strange entity ... you never know where it will lead you.

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and then maybe home and to my roots.

I have been getting uneasy here over the past week, wanting to go home to Brandenburg and start sorting things out.
Heike and I have had a long talk today and I have decided to go back next Sunday, she will do the same as when we came, take time off work and drive the Forester behind the Navajo. This time I will be fully covered with ADAC [tango_face_grin]
It will be easier for me to see things clearly from my own house than here were I have spent 3 good months with them.
The weather is still OK, no snow in sight here or in Brandenburg so roads will be travel worthy.
I realise more and more every day now this is not where I want to spend the rest of my days, I´m fine at the moment, but this is a mountainous area, (not many flat places to walk) I will be rather restricted when I am older.
Everything I need is at home as I have discovered to my inconvenience in the past 3 months.
I also feel more confident about being in the house alone although I know it will be hard at first, thats why Heike wants to come with me for the first week.
I can then plan a trip to England to visit family and friends and see how I feel about living there. The problem is of course finding somewhere to live, I want a place of my own not living with family.


it must have been a difficult decision to come to. I am glad in a way that we moved when we did as I don’t think I would have done if I had been on my own then. We had excellent neighbours who are only a couple of miles away. Until this last 4 weeks I had only met 1 neighbour here, due to being constantly at the hospital, this last 2 weeks I have met another 4 who are in the adjacent bungalows and who live on their own which is now making life here easier. We too are with ADAC which we have had for a number of years, will have to alter that in May when it is due for renewal as it’s in both our names. I wouldn’t make any decisions yet about moving to UK until you have been for a visit, you might not find it to your liking 😱😱 We only moved back from France due to Martin’s medical problem, the Professor I had spoke excellent English so I was ok and because my leukaemia was diagnosed in 1992 I was well versed in the condition. Best wishes for your homeward journey. Xx

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There is a lot to do before I can make any major decisions, first I must get the house into my soul name, hopefully the Fathers death certificate will be the end of it.
I am really not so concerned with the state of the UK and all the politics, you all live there and most of you are contented as long as you can get away now and then in the motorhome.
What is getting more important to me are people, I had all the people I needed rolled into one person, its going to take a lot of people to take his place. 
There are so many things I could do in England I can´t do here, for example watch and understand every word on the TV, go to a cinema, theatre or to a pub. Have a joke with people in shops,  understand Telephone, electricity, gas and water bills. Thats just off the top of my head. I haven´t liked depending on Marion and Heike over the past months, I would have preferred to handle things myself with a little support from them not sit back dumb struck not being able to do anything.
I also may have a better chance of getting to know personally a few more motorhomers [biggrin]  The more I think of it the closer I come to a decision, but this is not a commandment, its only typed onto the screen not carved.

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I don’t think any of us feel the political situation in the U.K. should bother you Jan. The decision is more about having people around you that you can spend time with, and also creating a different life for yourself. 

Take your time. - List positives and negatives of both scenarios. (Staying in your home or moving back to the U.K.). Sylvia has given you the same advice as me.....visit the U.K, (I would say more than once), before making any decisions. You can’t do anything yet anyway, so don’t worry about it if possible.....until you feel you are in a position to make clear headed decisions. - Bereavement doesn’t leave anyone clear headed for a long while! 


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Almost ready for our 674km (Becker says) journey tomorrow, the van is almost packed, just the few last minute bits to go in before we leave In the morning at 8am. I´m hoping there aren't any diversions. 

I think Motley will be very happy to be home, I know I will, although a bit nervous, but I keep telling myself I´ll be OK.

The batteries are fine. V 12.8v L 13.35 on Jürgen's measurer. so all should be well.

Heike takes the Forester and if we need a long break we can have a sleep in the van.  Can´t say what time we will get home.



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Wishing you a safe and trouble free journey Jan. [thumb]

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You will be fine when you get back Jan. It will be a bit strange at first, but you will have Motley to think about, and take out on your usual walks. 


Have a safe drive tomorrow. I think you mentioned previously that you might have to overnight if you both get tired? Leaving early and doing most of the journey in daylight is a good idea. Once you are on the road you will want to get home asap.


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We hope you have a safe journey home Jan, and that you are reasonably ok once you get there, at least you will have a friend with you for a while to get used to being back there.
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Must admit I am a bit wossaname scared is not the right word.
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Apprehensive, not at all surprised Jan.
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I’m sure you will take it in your stride and get home in good time. Those were good numbers on the batteries, or was it all still plugged in and charging? A damn good drive home will fill any gaps, and if you don’t hook it up immediately but look at it 24 hours later if your batteries are strong you should see similarly high numbers. All the best. 
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We had unhooked a couple of hours of more when Jürgen tested them so all should be OK.
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I have found that having to take Alfie out 3 times a day has been very helpful. He won’t leave me alone until I take him, I think he has a clock in his head so don’t have time to feel sorry for myself. Hopefully Jan will cope the same way. 


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safe journey. Let us know when you’re home.
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Safe trip Jan, how long are you over for?
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We have stopped for breakfast before reaching the motorway. Not many vehicles on this road.
Motley is catching up on some of his lost sleep at the moment, 7am is not his normal get up time😔.

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Safe trip Jan, how long are you over for?


I am going home to Brandenburg Paul not to England yet.

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We made it  hello2    left Heikes at 8.10 am arrived here 6.30pm ish.

A very good journey, it was team work again for overtaking slower traffic, she blinked, I checked behind,  blinked moved out to overtake and Heike then moved out and we were always together.   hardly any lorries, 3 lots of looooooong road works of 2 x 8 1 x 9 km long, so slow 60kmph instead of 110-120. between 70-80 mph. Just as I drove into the next village to here the orange light came on for diesel needed.

Motley came in the house after having a sniff and pee out the front and immediately picked up his ball and chucked it to Heike.

I have had a short walk up and down the road with him this morning and my heart feels very light and happy to be home.

Remember Itsme the cat, well Horst her owner now has about 12 cats including 2 more kittens and they all look extremely healthy and shiny.

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